Conversation Tips:
Conversation Stoppers -
The Habitual Bickerer
Nothing can be more stimulating and enjoyable then a good old-fashioned debate, when it’s done in a spirit of fun of course. One of my fondest
memories of time spent with my younger brother was the day that he and I debated for hours whether or not there is gravity in outer space.
I lost of course; I'm no science whiz.
But then there are some who seem to think that every conversation should be a debate, or should I say an argument. In fact, they often say things
to provoke others, always seeming to be on the opposing side of whatever the subject is. I call these people “habitual bickerers”.
Of course everyone is allowed his or her opinion, but few people enjoy the company of someone who seems to never agree on anything, no matter how small.
And to make matters worse, often times the bickerer will belittle everyone else’s point of view just to keep the dispute going.
If you really enjoy a good argument and often go out of your way to provoke one, ask yourself why you do so. Is it so that you can win the argument?
Does winning an argument make you feel really good? Why? Is it because it gives your ego a nice little boost?
Having good self-esteem is essential to both the mental and physical health of every human being. It is something that all of us should strive after with gusto.
However, constantly putting others down in order to build oneself up is the selfish, mean-spirited way to get good self-esteem.
Becoming an expert in the art of conversation, on the other hand, is an excellent way to boost your self-esteem. People will often go out of their way to talk someone
that is a good conversationalist. Why is that? Having a really good conversation is enjoyable. It gives you the opportunity to learn something new, share your own
thoughts and feelings, gain new insights on things, laugh, and the list goes on and on.
So, avoid being a “habitual” bickerer. Being able to make good conversation will make you feel good about yourself. People will look forward to taking to you, and
there’s nothing better for the ego than that.
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