The Art of Conversation:
Conversation Stoppers -
The Conversation Hog
Just like a great question, observation or compliment can be a wonderful conversation starter; there are also things that we say and
do that are definite conversation stoppers. Over the next few weeks, we will talk about the various conversation stoppers, something every
master in the art of conversation should avoid.
One of the best ways to stop a conversation is by turning a dialogue into a monologue.
The Conversation Hog
Have you ever talked to someone who never lets you get a word in edgewise? He never pauses and never seems to notice that he’s having a one-way conversation.
No one likes to talk to someone like that. Most people will either tune the conversation hog out, look for the first opportunity to get away, or both.
One way to avoid being a conversation hog is by closely observing the person you're talking to. If she gives an indication that she would like to say something,
perhaps by opening her mouth or actually speaking, then pause. Let the other person contribute to the conversation.
Sometimes you may be on the verge of making a really good point when the other person decides to speak. How annoying. But consider this. Is keeping your train
of thought or saying every word of your idea really that important? Not if no one is listening, or your conversation partner is desperate to get away from you.
Pausing even when your conversation partner isn't giving any indication that he would like to speak is another way to avoid hogging the conversation. Some people are just too polite to interrupt.
Plus, pausing has the added benefit of giving you a chance to organize your thoughts and take a deep breath, which you might need if you tend to run on like I do at times.
If you've paused and your conversation partner seems to be waiting for you to continue, then forge ahead.
Share and share alike
Conversation can be likened to a tennis match. You lob the conversation ball over to your partner in the form of something insightful or witty, and then your partner lobs it back with something equally profound.
It is a flow of ideas that gives everyone an opportunity to teach and learn.
So, the next time you're having a good chat with someone, make sure that you're not hogging the conversation. Keep an eye out for indications from your conversation partner that he or she has something to say,
and pause once in while to give the other person a chance to speak. Avoiding this conversation stopper will surely make you a master in the art of conversation.
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